Sage advice on love, from a 45-year-old French learner

do not have in mind the way you want the other one to be
i mean, you have your own conception of what you want, or of how "he" must be
but do you ask before to know if this kind of model already exists?

in human relation, the image is important, and what are you waiting for to... and with some little "fear" a lot of easy situations become very, very complicated!

and do not have fear to be ridiculous cause it doesn't kill